did you mean what you said

did you mean what you said
did you mean what you sang
was your song merely words
or emotions

to be in love....

to be in love....
yet to be unsure of the Lord's will.

to love someone,
yet to know that if you hold on you may be hurting them or you?

to have their love returned
yet to know that you have to let it go even if you treasure it so much.

This is all extremely hard, because I do love him.

I have always done the wrong thing in the past. Now I am trying and occasionally failing but trying to do the right thing and the right thing hurts and is scary. I have to let go, but does letting go mean losing someone I actually value?

Or does letting go mean letting go so I can let God interven so that His ways that are higher than my ways can kick in and even maybe redeem this relationship.


I don't have answers. I just have wisdom, love, questions, fears.

Lord give me the strength to do the right thing. Its so scary cause I don't want someone else. But I know that doing things in my own way may lead to disaster regardless. Whether it's him or no one or someone else, God needs to direct it.

Lord help me love. Putting the my needs and desires second to his. Being a blessing instead of a curse. Help me Lord!

hey hey

Who would think that going without food actually makes you stronger :) But isn't that how God works, saying when you put aside your desires, carnal, needs, etc, for a moment, a time, a season, then I will come through and be your bread, your provision, your strenth. Fasting works people. This is coming from someone who sometimes is lazy to fast, more when I'm out of it, then hard to get back in. But this past 3 weeks, I've seen God coming through, I've seen him work, I've seen him change things, despite my mistakes, failure,etc.etc, simply because of surrending through fasting. Lord, I love you! And I thank you for your amazing strength and grace. Even as I write this, usually my heart would be shattering because of what is occuring in my personal life, but amazingly I am just depending on God and as he comes through and fills me up more, that causes me to depend even more, I am not trying to figure things out when I'm on my mine, replaying events and conversations,etc. I am just doing what I must, and thinking on God, surrendering. It doesnt always feel good, I am having a cold at the same time, so physically not feeling lekka either, BUT, I am blessed. And this in itself is amazing,so Lord thank YOU for your faithfulness, and for being there for me. If I allow myself to delve into the series of events, it doesnt make sense at all, yes there are some big basics we have let go of, and compromised in that could have led to all this muck and leaves uncertainty about the future BUT, at the same time, no matter how I try to do things with sincerity, or the right thing, or with good intentions, it just doesnt work out, and I dont know how to fix things, resolve things, clarify things, move on even, when focused on these things. I am sad that friendships that I have had has to come to this point and the hoper in me hopes that it will be redeemed despite our own choices not on a romantic level but a general friendship I wish the best for you, you wish the best for me as it always was. I do not wish anything to leave behind bitterness, mistrust, fear, and I know when dont deal with things properly thats where it can lead to. But learning to lift my head above this, not look to this, but look to God find my beauty, my confidence, my joy, my strength, my"strenght for today, and bright hope for tomorrow" in HIM, in no one else but him, and he will work together all things for my good. It may hurt, it may not make sense, but as psalm 46 says I will make the Lord my refuge and be still and know he is my God. I am casting my cares upon him for HE cares for me.

Lord thank you for your most amazing faithfulness towards me. Lord I cling to you and love you

Chan

this season

i dont know
i dont know where to go
i dont know how to fix things
i dont know all the answers
i dont know how to make it
i dont know, I dont know

what i've seen
is when i give up
he can work and move

so even in my i don't knows
i'm giving up
God work and move
God keep the pieces of my heart together
And heal me once again

God help me in my relationship with others
Help them in their relationship with me
But mostly God,hold me.
So that I can be ok, even when I don't know.

...

everyday a sharing of what's on my heart leads to an argument, and because the object of my affection is so important to me,I am beginning to think maybe I should just not share my heart, I don't know if it's just this situation or everyone that comes along who doesn't get me,all I know is that I try so very hard to spell out all my feelings and intentions and still it will be misunderstood or misread in a way I didn't intend it. Anyway, the verdict is I am in love, but love hurts and I am generally not neutral when it comes to love or hurt. But hurt or no hurt, the good is so much greater and worth pursuing,so I allow things to be swept under the carpet or hope things will work out on their own cause I don't know how to with my words.

rejection sucks too.it really does.

God help and hold on to me.

Anyway I do know that the rejection is not intentional nor really understood.

But I have to share my heart somewhere and though I dont really want to make my heart public, i dont really know who else to speak to, so i blog...

Right now greater things are going on than my little problems, Lord please come!!!!!!! Intervene...Your Presence, Lord, Come with you presence...


Amen

Questions...

1) Why do people say they'll be there? Then after you make yourself vulnerable, yet again, you never hear from them again? Or maybe I will, and I should just wait longer?

2) How do you sort out things with people, when you're not sorry yet for what happened. And now you in self protection mode? Do you not speak to them until you can say sorry and face same hurt again? Or do you not say sorry but at least begin the dialogue. What if you're not ready to be hurt again, in just dialoguing?

3)Do you hold onto friends who are absent when you're not there? Making you begin to wonder was it merely based on you. Do you let go without letting them know you are letting go? I used to hold on and fight, but learnt when I was away to let people just be? So now I'm trying that but also wondering if I should be fighting or letting go.

More to follow.

Before I forget

Though there has been a lot of hurtful situations today I am still going to blog the relevations God gave me in quiet time today as I think it's pretty relevant for me right now and whoever else may be blessed by it.

Also the wordplay on relevant and revelation is something to remember.

This morning as I was praying and surrendering to God for the first time in a long time... God reminded me, that Christianity is not a RELIGION with RULES but a relationship with GOD. Cause I have this tendency to push God away when people hurt me or when I mess up or when I can't see a solution because in my mind all the rules comes to mind. E.g You're going to have to forgive this one, cause thats what Christianity is? And thats what God is oging to expect when you come to him, and then its so hard because for now my mind is still trying to figure out how can this have happened...or if purity is still an issue,then u're really a messed up christian cause you should be walking in holiness and righteousness. But God reminded me, Christianity is not rules, or Religion, but a Relationship with HIM. As I come to him, He purifies me, As I surrender to him, he brings healing and strengthens me to face the people i need to or gives me wisdom, Its about drawing nearer to him, so he can do it, Even Righteousness, the bible says JESUS is our righteousness, apart from him our righteous works is nothing...

So though I'm hurting, and broken and messed up, I am going to continue coming close to the one who's love is bigger than even my imperfection and even though I am messed up he doesnt stop loving me, so let me go to him and let him Love me into healing so that then I can face a messed up world to. Lord Thank You for your love I can say this even in my hurting and broken heart! (I normally can't so thank you so much for holding on to me :) and how apt that He loves - Kim Walker should be the song that is playing now...)

Chan